Bear with me a little, this could get a tiny bit ranty.
Last week I was offered the chance to review a gourmet foodie break at a luxury hotel in Yorkshire. YES I thought to myself, this is exactly what I need right now.
The past twelve months have been long and torturous. We’ve had to tackle a double redundancy situation and it’s fair to say a few extra grey hairs found their way onto my weary head during that time. We came out the other side of it smiling, as you inevitably do, but it was tough going there for a while. So yes, a luxury break for me and my mister would be very gratefully accepted right now.
Except we were denied. Why?
The owner of the hotel basically said we weren’t suitable to review the hotel because we’re a family and they’re more geared towards couples.
The last time I checked Mr M and I had two children, our own little family, yet we are STILL a couple.
We still do couple-y things. We go out for nice dinners, hold hands, take breaks together when we can. We have date nights and snuggle on the sofa.
Because ultimately, we’re a couple.
We’re were a couple before we had a family (though I’d argue we were still a family then, you do not need children to be a ‘family’) and we’ll be a couple (god willing) long after they have left home.
I couldn’t help but feel a little affronted by this rebuke. I mean yes, I realise we’re not entitled to anything, it’s nice to be asked and all that, however I couldn’t shake off the feeling that it was being insinuated that we are less worthy of reviewing their establishment because we have children? Good lord, I’d say that if anyone needs a luxurious break it would be over-worked, over-stressed parents!
Mr M and I will continue to book ourselves onto couple-y breaks and heavens, we might even book a “luxury” break regardless of our ‘family’ status (just don’t tell the owners or the other patrons, I don’t wish to offend anyone by my child-rearing state…) but I can tell you one thing for sure – this establishment* certainly won’t be seeing the colour of my money! If I’m not welcome as a reviewer surely they wouldn’t want me as a paying guest either?
What do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Probably, but meh PARENTS ARE COUPLES TOO!
*I’m not going to “name and shame” the hotel, as much as I want to. I feel that would be unfair on the PR who was truly lovely about it all.